Toddlers and Tantrums

We’ve all been there. You’re in the middle of your shopping run, or a quiet day at the library, or maybe trying to get your errands done as quickly as possible, and it strikes: the LOUDEST, and LONGEST tantrum you have ever seen. Bring it on, Toddler. I’ve got this! IMG_8446 2.jpg

As moms, we learn to read our children quite well. I can tell from the moment my toddler wakes up if he’s going to have a good day, or a bad day, just from his morning routine. Today, was one of those days where I said “oh boy” and waited for it to hit.

Have you ever stopped to think about all the new things a toddler is learning on a daily basis? Toddlers have a lot going on in their tiny little brains. Everything from learning the numbers, letters, manners, sharing, a second language if the parents speak more than one. It’s all new to them, and they’re trying to constantly make parents proud by doing their best. They truly have a lot going on in their brains, and sometimes they don’t know how to deal with it. As adults, we get a coffee break, a little “me time”, and if we’re lucky, a little soak in the bath tub to unwind from a crazy day. Since toddlers aren’t able to communicate exactly what is going on in their mind, or how they are feeling, they lose control and have a tantrum in the middle of whatever errand it is you’re trying to get done peacefully.

I try keep these 5 things in mind when it comes to my toddler having his tantrums. And being 2, I know I am nowhere near the end of this phase with him.

  1. Reassure your child that he/she is a good boy/girl.
    • They can’t control their tantrum, they’ve had a long day, and they’re trying to deal with it the best way they can.
  2. Tell your child that you love them.
    • This may be the most important thing to do. After your child has calmed down a bit, remember to tell them you love them more than anything. Children do not want to upset their parents, and they definitely do not want to disappoint them. Since they can’t really control their tantrums, make sure they know they are not disappointing you, and that you will get through this together. Hug them a little tighter, and sneak in an extra kiss or two.
  3. Remove your child from the situation.
    • Since they can’t really control their tantrums, it is the adults responsibility to help ease the moment. By removing your child from the area, whether be it a play yard, a friend’s birthday party, story time at the library, or if you’re in the middle of your shopping trip, it’s the best thing for them. You can’t stop and try to explain the situation because at that very moment, their mind is going a million miles an hour, and are going to continue to cry and scream and toss their bodies around. Simply remove your child so they can calm down and relax themselves. Don’t worry what other people will think; for those who are parents will all understand what you’re going through.
  4. Talk about your child’s tantrum after he is calm.
    • Aside from telling your child you love them, it is important to sit down and talk things through with your toddler. Some people think since their child is only 2, they won’t understand what is being explained to them. Trust me, they understand everything you say. They may not like it, but they will undstand it.
  5. Don’t lose your cool.
    • I know it’s very difficult to keep calm when your child is having a tantrum, but your actions will either fuel or calm the tantrum. If you yell and scold at your child while they’re having a tantrum, you’re only fueling their tantrum more. They will scream louder, hit harder, kick their feet harder, and maybe even hold their breath so long they will turn pale blue (which is a normal tantrum behavior, by the way). However, if you keep your cool, sit down next to your child throwing the tantrum, maybe patting their back, and helping them calm down, you will still be in control of the moment. At the end of the day, you’re still the adult.

Do you have some other tips on handling a temper tantrum? If so, comment below and share with other mamas who may be going through the tantrum stages.

Stay calm mamas. We’ve got this!
Hermine-Jane

Hello, again.

IMG_7348Peek-a-boo! I see all of you. I am so humbled with the love and support I have received this past month on my social media in regards to my blog. Each and every one of you have encouraged and inspired me to continue with my blog, and tell my story as it is. Social media is a wonderful place to grow your blog and grow your network (mine being the mommy network). Being a stay-at-home mom is very rewarding, yet at times, can be very lonely. Thankfully, having a supportive mom network on Instagram and on the blog helps with lonely moments while sitting in a quiet room nursing my newborn baby. I’ve welcomed over 800 new mom bloggers, and influencers across all my social media platforms, and I thought I’d take a moment and introduce myself with some unknown things about me.

  1. I was born in Armenia (a small Europearmenia-mapan Christian country), but moved to the US when I was 2.
  2. My younger sister is my backbone, and biggest motivator for my blog entries. She’s always cheering me on, and encouraging my next blog posts; including this one.
  3. I spent 18 years doing competitive gymnastics, and hold awards such as State Champion, and Regional Qualifier. My gymnastics career came to an end due to an injury which dislocated my hips, and broke my wrists. (I’m all better now though).
  4. I am a bookworm amongst my friends. I’m totally okay with that.
  5. In high school, I asked my crush to Prom in front of my math class; He said yes. Now we’re married and have 2 boys.Gerbera Daisies
  6. If I ever have a girl, I would name her Amelia Belle.
  7. I love random facts.
  8. My favorite season is Autumn.
  9. My favorite flower is the Gerbera Daisy.
  10. I handwrite all my blog drafts before typing them up.
  11. I love planners, stationaries, calendars, and ALL “teacher-y” stuff that helps keeps things organized.
  12. My favorite drawer at home is my laundry drawer. It smells so clean and fresh.
  13. My favorite number is 4 because sometimes “3rd time’s the charm” doesn’t cut it.
  14. Everyone complains about the L.A. traffic; it really doesn’t bother me.
  15. My 3 favorite colors are pink, yellow, and white.To Do List
  16. Belle is my favorite Disney Princess.
  17. Sometimes, Motherhood scares me, and I wonder if I am cut out for the job.
  18. I love country music.
  19. I have an inner cowgirl, and I wish I lived in Nashville.
  20. I love making lists, and “To-Do” Lists.

Although I can go on and on, I’d like to leave it off here and continue another time. I love meeting new moms, and building a strong network because after all, no one gets us moms like other moms. I would love to hear a few things about each of you, so I can get to know you a little bit better too.

  1. Where are you from?
  2. How did you get into blogging?
  3. What’s your favorite thing about motherhood?

Thanks again for all the wonderful followers, you truly make blogging worthwhile.

Rock on mamas,
Hermine-Jane

Hooked on BUGZ!

I hate bugs! Everything about them creeps me out, and makes my body itchy. So, what do you think I did when I found out there was a Bug Fair coming to our local museum? YUP! You guessed it! I bought us tickets and took my toddler, Michael, to explore the bugs. Now, why would I do such a thing? Because I saw Michael playing with some ants in the yard, and was showing interest in creepy crawlers, and it was the perfect opportunity to expand his curiosity.

I sucked up my fear, got my bug spray, and headed to the museum. I also took my mom just incase I was too creeped out and Michael wanted to touch some bugs. I can honestly say I learned more from Michael that day than I thought I would.

I had forgotten that toddlers are like sponges, and absorb everything. I caught him saying “EEEWWWWW” to the bugs, and realized I had been to vocal about my feelings towards that bugs, and not letting him decide on his own if it really is “eewww” or “coooool”. I had to take a step back and let him explore. I needed to see this Bug Fair through his eyes, and not my own.

These are the top moments from my experience at the bug fair with Michael.

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He called them a “lobster” and made claw fists and was walking about the scorpion zone with claws.
He made the lobster connection since we were learning about sea animals the day before.

 

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It was an endless 30 minutes of “WOOWWW”, “Ooohhhhhhh” and “Aahhhh”.

At First, I thought he was just acting and trying to be cute, but later noticed his excitement as he spent several seconds staring and admiring each butterfly. He signed “butterfly” to me, which made me 100% sure he knew what he was looking at. He”s seen countless butterflies in our yard, but none this huge, and definitely not any that are royal blue, and larger than his face. He clearly appreciated the butterflies and was even able to touch one that was out on display.

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This category was the strangest for him since we rarely see beetles in the city. At first, he was unsure what he was looking at, but slowly was able to distinguish the feet, antenna, and even pointed out some eyes on the larger beetles. He did spend a long time observing and letting it all soak in, but I did hear

IMG_4433him say “eeww” a few times which is fine with me because it is his own opinion about the specific beetles.

 

Although my opinion on bugs has not changed, and I am still creeped out by them, I am so glad I was able to take Michael to the Bug Fair and expand his curiosity on bugs.

This may turn out to be a yearly tradition we do for him, but maybe next year, daddy will take him; I’m getting itchy just writing about the creepy crawlers.

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Stay Hooked,
Hermine-Jane

My Top 7 Life Lessons for New Moms


Becoming a mom has been a never-ending learning experience. With baby #2 coming in 7 very short days, I’ve decided to write a quick list of things I’ve learned since becoming a mom: just so I can remind myself when things get tough in the very near future.

  • LET. IT. GO. 

Whatever happened, whoever said it, for whatever reason it was said, just LET IT GO!
It’s not the end of the world. Life will go on, and your way will not always be the only right way.

  • DO NOT COMPARE CHILDREN

Every child is different, grows differently, and develops at their own pace. If you compare kids, you’re only hurting yourself. After all, are any two adults the same? NO. No, they’re not. So stop wanting kids to be the same. Especially when you compare kids who are not even the same age. That’s just ridiculous.

  • JUNK IS OK (ONCE IN A WHILE)

We do the best we can as moms. We feed our children organic, we cook at home most of the time, we give them healthy and natural snacks with no sugars, no preservatives, and no additives. So every now and then, if they want to snack on some chips, or have some cake, or cookies, it’s ok.

  • GET DIRTY!

Please, child, play outside, fall down, scrape your knees. Be a child.

We have our whole lives to sit in front of the TV, or tablet, or smartphone, but only once to play, laugh, and grow. The more they play and fall, the stronger they will be: both physically and mentally. How else are they going to learn to get back up when they fall down?

  • HE WONT GO TO COLLEGE IN DIAPERS

This actually goes back to not comparing kids. Every child will become potty trained when they are ready. If little Suzy was potty trained by 18 months, then GREAT, you just saved a lot of money on diapers. But if little 3-year old Johnny is still in Pull-Ups, that’s great too. When he’s ready, he will ditch the diapers for the big boy undies. Who are we to judge children, and other moms who are trying their very best, day in and day out.

  • TAKE THE HELP

Yes, we’re all supermoms in our own ways, but even supermoms need help. Does your husband want to cook dinner? Yes!! By all means, go for it. Just clean the dishes after, haha!
Is a family member offering to take the kids out for an hour? Yes! Please take them for two hours, feed them, and then bring them back.
Does your mother-in-law, sister, mom, grandma want to help clean the house? By all means, come on in!

There is NOTHING wrong with accepting help. It doesn’t make you weaker, or vulnerable. It makes you human. We forget that sometimes.  **Note to self** Don’t forget that!

  • I KNOW BEST FOR MY CHILD

Everyone will give your advice whether you like it or not. Some are pretty interesting, and others are just out of this world crazy!

You know your child best. Do what is best for your child, and don’t let what anyone says get to your heart: especially if the advice is coming from someone who isn’t even a parent. Some of those are just plain whack!

My advice is this: Listen to what others have to say, and you decide which advice stays and which you leave at the door. You and your partner can, and will, make the best decisions that work for you, your child, and your family.

The bottom line is this. Everything is going to be alright.

Que…Bob Marley – Everythings Going To Be Alright

Xoxo

Hermine-Jane

Hooked on Ball

In the Armenian culture, children (mainly boys) are exposed mostly to chess, soccer, weightlifting, and boxing, while girls do dance and/or ballet. Living freely in America is such a blessing for us because there is so much more out there that we can expose our children to. Of course Michael already has a chess set, and more soccer balls than I can keep track of, but we love exposing him to different sports and letting him find his niche.

I recently got him a Tee-Ball set, thinking it would be beneficial for his hand-eye coordination, and to my surprise, he used it several times before putting soccer balls on the tee, and trying to bat with the soccer balls. It was pretty funny, but at least he was hitting the ball (which was my main goal to begin with).

My husband wanted to see what Michael’s reaction would be if we took away the tee, and tried to pitch him the ball instead. To both of our surprise, he hit the ball on his very first try. Not only did he hit the ball, he “knocked it out of the park” as my husband likes to say.

My husband and I both believe the more he is exposed to different types of sports, he more well rounded he’ll be: both as an athlete, and as a person. In Armenia, baseball is unheard of, and American Football is not even an option. It’s interesting for us to see what kind of sport he will get into.

I grew up doing competitive gymnastics my whole life, while my husband played basketball, and was captain of our  high school water-polo team. We already know he’s going to participate in those sports because, well, why not?

I wonder, what are your thoughts on different types of sports? Do you believe in having your child stick to one sport, or introduced to a variety of sports? What route have you taken, and what was the outcome?

All the best,
Hermine-Jane